Dit artikel is in het Engels geschreven door de Deense (Kopenhagen) trainer/coach Jacob. Het bevat inspiratie over hoe je door 'anders zijn' meer bereikt dan 'normaal' te doen. Be. A. Rebel.
How playing drums taught me to be weird
The best short answer I ever got to the question ’how should I live my life?’ was ’Be someone you like’. Of course, the problem with this answer is that it leads you to a new question – a commonly shared trait of many good answers – which is: ’Who, or what, do I like?’. Again, this may lead you to some interesting answers, but once again you’ll probably end up with a new, and potentially dangerous, question that goes: ’can I be like this? Can I be like the person I like?’.
And this is where you have to be careful.
The body of Schwarzenegger
Because we usually admire amazing people, the answer to this question is probably going to be ‘No! No, you cannot be like the person you like’. At least, this is how my thought process goes.
Everyday I’m reminded of how my body is nowhere near Arnold Schwarzenegger’s and how my mental abilities are nowhere near Immanuel Kants. And so the question changes once again, to ‘how do we learn from these amazing guys without getting into a lifetime of self-loathing?‘.
'Just be yourself' is bullsh*t
Well, some people would say: ‘Just be yourself!’. But that is just the worst bullcrap advice you could possibly get, and no one really knows what that worn out phrase means. My answer would be this: Don’t try to be yourself and don’t try to be like others either.
Let me explain what I mean.
Copying results in a ‘not as good as’ mindset
Once I wanted to be a drummer. I wanted to be a drummer really bad, and I was completely determined to do whatever it would take. So what did I do? I looked for the best drummers and tried to copy them.
I did the things the Arnold Schwarzenegger's of drumming did. I was trying to figure out if I could be like the people I liked.
This copying-style worked out OK, but it created a ’not as good as’ mindset. And along with that, it created a lot of frustration, but the frustration took me some interesting ways. For instance, it made me think thoughts like ’This drummer is so much better than me! I have to do something extreme to keep up!´.
Tai-Chi lessons with 60 year old women
So what did I do? Well, I started doing some weird stuff to keep up with my idols. I started practicing drums in a different way, in order to figure out if I could be like the people I liked. Here are some of the weird stuff I started to incorporate in my drumming practice:
- Taking Tai-chi lessons with a bunch of ladies at 60+ years old
- Meditation everyday
- Becoming a street salesman
- Living on less than 15 euros a week
- Exchanging my drums for glass filled with water
- Completely stopped using my right hand